Comments on: Creating an Intentional Village

By: Jeannette

Jeannette — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 12:43:07 +0000

CS, you are correct it is always darkest before the dawn, I can see your sadness and seems to be well earned, I too have lived through much sadness including loosing my son 2 years ago to depression. To date I still can’t find a piece of me that wants to be happy,, I play the game but inside its a mess. I have picked up and started over many times, I refuse to give up, sometimes going through the dark room is needed to find the light switch. I let God be my guide, yes He too allows for sadness so that we reach out for him. He doesn’t cause it, but he does allow it. My hope is that my children and their children learn and find a better life. That will be my contentment.
He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. Psalm 40:2

I have to believe and have faith that my future may not be on this earth but in whatever God has for me, God gives us peace and rest inspite of our storms.

By: Denise @ The Single Saver

Denise @ The Single Saver — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 04:09:04 +0000

Cs, do you live in Ohio? You just described my town in your post and I wonder if we are neighbors. I’m sorry for all the tragedy you have gone through. Life really isn’t fair sometimes.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 22:45:07 +0000

cs, at only 55 you still have a lot of years ahead. You have had more than your share of tragedies. I hope you can heal and consider the kind of life you want to have, and build it.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 22:42:01 +0000

I love this idea! Maybe something to look forward to in my old age, after all! I like the idea of having my own little space where I can shut the door if I need some quiet, but also space with other people to enjoy and learn from.
Of course what I’d need now is one that caters to senior citizen parents with young children.

By: cs

cs — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 14:47:34 +0000

So maybe I have swallowed a bitter pill of life it certainly wasn’t my deliberate choice. In other words, those who buy into the ‘Oneness’, ‘Karma’ and ‘I drew the negative energy’ theories. I had nothing to do with my father’s fatal heart attack causing him to fall down basement steps to bleed out, nothing to do with the crack head who stabbed my sister to death 3 states away from me and nothing to do with an industry that allows crotch rockets to be driven as street bikes that would take my youngest on a narrow tree-lined road. So, maybe I see life through a dusty lens – but as gas as risen to $4.00 a gallon now in my area which is a .75cent increase in two days; a Postal Processing plant closing in 90 days which will add 300 MORE people to the thousands out of work in my area; as I contemplate how to begin to dismantle a life I spent 55 years building all because of NOTHING I had anything to do with – I didn’t buy one of those pay onle the interest homes; I don’t live in 3,000 square feet; it’s what many called in the 70′s the ‘starter home’. Yep, at 55 and still in my starter home. So you would think there would be nowhere to go but up, right? Even WorldCom and Enron didn’t do this to the nation. Even the 1980′s Savings & Loan disaster didn’t do this to the nation. Even when the Hunt Brothers (who lived just miles from me) who cornered the silver market, didn’t do this to the nation. No, there is something much, much bigger happening here. We will be going to cohousing but it won’t be under the pretense of enjoying the rain barrels and planting gardens. Call me bitter. I have a dusty lens, I also call it like I see it. It’s getting darker in this nation, much darker. The good news is it is said it’s always the darkest just before daybreak. May the sun rise soon over this great nation and the hardworking, honest people who still live here.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 14:44:01 +0000

Another possibility is CoAbode.com – it’s sort of a matchmaker service for single moms to find single mom roommates. Obviously, it can take a while to find a good fit, but for single moms one of the biggest blessings is knowing that another adult is in the home, ready to help on occasion. The chores can be split, car drop offs are easier to arrange with two cars and two drivers – it’s a lighter load, even with more kids.