Comments on: Employment/Unemployment

By: Sula Lee

Sula Lee — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:56:58 +0000

Wow – everyone should read this – you are writing about things that no one wants to talk about or acknowledge.

I have been a mortgage broker for 12 years and I am seeing most people really struggle. The credit score is becoming a huge factor in hiring now and I don’t think this is fair given our current economy. Those hit hardest, continue to be hit harder.

Keep your chin up – you have a lot of people rooting for you.

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By: FrauTech

FrauTech — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:37:43 +0000

Please don’t even consider that your kids are better off without you. There is no way. We’ve all had ups and downs but when I go home (wherever home is, where you and your family gather) I am so thankful that we are all there and alive and mostly healthy. Your kids would never trade your life for something so meaningless as money. I don’t mean to imply we don’t need money to live off of, just that your love, support and presence in their lives is so much more important. Ask the families of soldiers whether they would rather have the hazardous duty pay or whether they’d rather their soldier back home. You know the answer. I know it’s doubly hard for you to be on the front lines wishing the stars would align and having to be the emotional support for your family, but trust me that you are important to them for who you are not what you make or what you do. I also agree with your plan not to just take any job. While you are still receiving unemployment, and qualify for the max, that makes the most financial sense. I have made the same deliberations as I try to prepare for the worst as layoffs abound at my husband’s company and came to the same conclusion as you. So ignore all those who suggest you just take any job.

By: A totally different anonymous

A totally different anonymous — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:52:53 +0000

My husband had his first child at 20, with a woman who was 19 (hang in there, this story becomes relevant, I SWEAR). She died at 28, leaving him with a nine year old and her social security benefits. More recently, my husband and I got pregnant with twins just as he was laid off, and he has been unable to find (feasible) employment for nearly three years. We are not in your situation – yet – but are definitely struggling financially. And I absolutely guarantee you that our kids are 1000% better off than his first was. So don’t you EVER even THINK about listening to a**holes like that other anonymous commenter. Your kids need you now more than ever.

By: Shelly H.

Shelly H. — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:26:19 +0000

Sorry to hear about all that is happening with you! I can’t believe your bravery! And I feel badly for you. And I am about to embark on a similiar trip. I am in my second month of not paying my mortgage. Don’t know whether to do a short sale or foreclose. I am on a short list to get into a 3 bedroom subsidized apartment. I will have to lose our cats, fortunately for my dog,she got sick and died (sometimes I wish I was her.)I SO want to keep our animals! but I don’t think I’m brave enough to do the motorhome route. Things are a little easier in WA state. we are on medicaid and food stamps. I went back to school for awhile and the state payed for it. However, I was self employed-so no unemployment.

Your writing is excellent. And your information is useful! Can you try to publish your blog and get some money that way? It is so timely. People need to hear whats happening to many of us. Past that, I have no advice. Personally I have an urge to roll up in a ball and let someone else take over. I am 58 with a degree in Graphic Design. HaHa.great choice.I have been sucked dry by my bank as well. oh I am just rambling and thinking about you alot. Don’t give up your kids! It would devistate all of you! I don’t know if you need to hear MY problems when you definitely are up to your ears in your own.

Shelly

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:28:38 +0000

It is so hard to read your blog. So hard to listen to your suffering and pain. I’m so so sorry. I absolutely agree with you about finding just any job. I was unemployed about five years ago. I couldn’t get unemployment. And people couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t take anything–McDonald’s or something. Like you, I knew we couldn’t live on it. AND I knew that taking a job like that would severely limit my abilities to job hunt and go on interviews. That can be a full-time job in itself. I survived on savings. Eventually as you say, your unemployment will run out. That will be really hard.

The job market has to get better. It just has to. I’m in a long-distance relationship and want my boyfriend to relocate here. But he’s having trouble finding a job as well. And his credit isn’t the best. And he’s over 40. All stuff that will work against him. But if the economy is in good enough shape, that wouldn’t matter as much.

I think of you often and pray for all of you. Hang in there!